A Man’s Perspective on How to Attract a Guy
In needing dating advice from men, many women are really looking to learn what makes a man tick. Furthermore, it’s easy to become discouraged in the world of dating today.
Media puts so much pressure on people (women especially) to hold themselves to these unrealistic ideals of “beauty”.
According to popular magazines, a woman might only be beautiful if she is extremely thin, or has full pouty lips, or a deep, dark (and usually artificial by the way) tan.
Photos of women who have been air brushed to within inches of their lives and who are often unhealthy because of the pressures of the beauty industry are the photos that regular, everyday gals like you compare themselves to.
As a result, regular, everyday gals like you often become discouraged and develop a poor body image. That often snowballs into a dating life that leaves you feeling unhappy and unfulfilled.
Either you are attracting the wrong kind of men, or you wind up feeling too down on yourself to even bother with dating altogether and are left wondering “will I ever find my true love?”.
I would say that’s a pretty sad state of affairs, wouldn’t you?
Every Woman Has Something Beautiful About That Makes Them Marriage Material
I’m here to tell you to throw all that “ideal woman” crap out the window. Take it from a man who knows… beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.
There is a man out there in this world who thinks YOU are the most beautiful creature on this planet. Don’t despair if you haven’t yet met him, because I guarantee you he is out there, just waiting to be found.
You just have to be willing to look.
Beauty is entirely subjective. Every single man on this planet has his own “idea” of what makes a woman beautiful and irresistible.
In Girl Gets Ring I even mention all the men I know that only find women who resemble animals attractive. Or only find left-handed women hot.
And to really put it into perspective for you, consider that old cliché-
Every Pot Has a Lid!
Sure you might have to plow through a few toads before you find Prince Charming, but that’s kind of what dating is all about. It’s a learning process. Maybe even an exercise in character building.
Dating Advice From Men: Learn How to Attract a Guy to You.
As we’ve talked about before on how to attract a guy to you, it starts with you getting really clear on the kind of man you want. This helps to narrow down the dating numbers…
…but that doesn’t mean you won’t still find yourself dating quite a few jerks before you finally find Mr. Right. It’s just a part of the whole dating process.
But you have to be willing to go through the process to find that perfect guy for you. And you can’t let incorrect notions of beauty stand in your way of finding true happiness.
Quite frankly, we men are relatively simple creatures.
What attracts men to woman? Take it from a guy…we really aren’t that picky!
Yup… most of us simply love women, period.
And I know plenty of men who are not picky about the type of women they date even a little bit. Tall, short, plump, slim, dark eyes, blue eyes, blonde, brown… they love ‘em all.
And it’s important to remember that while a first glimmer of interest might initially be something physical (so do still strive to take care of yourself fitness and hygiene-wise), the real, deeper attraction happens when we start to talk to you and get to know you better.
We become attracted to the little quirks that make you unique. Maybe we love the softness of your hands or the dimple in your chin. Maybe we love the way you fill out a pair of jeans, or the way your eyes crinkle up when you grin.
True attraction happens on a deeper level than just looks. Real beauty isn’t just a pretty face or a perfect body. The men who are marriage material, the men you are looking for; they already know this.
They are looking for the beauty inside a woman. They want to find that woman that will look beyond their own flaws too and really see the man they are inside.
Because deep down, we men are just like you.
We suffer from our own insecurities and fears. We secretly worry we may never find Mrs. Right. We get scared too in initiating a conversation or asking a girl out.
And just like you we want to be loved, flaws and all.
The difference is we’re men. We don’t communicate those things well. Heck we might not even realize those things consciously at all! But that doesn’t mean we aren’t feeling them just as much as you are.
Dating Advice From Men – One last thought about how to attract a guy to you…
Please stop worrying about whether or not we think you’re beautiful, because chances are we think you’re beyond beautiful.
We just don’t know how to say it.
Take some pressure off us poor saps and initiate a conversation. Say hello.
And just know that no matter what happens after that point, you are beautiful to someone, somewhere. You just have to be open to finding him.
Over to you. Do you struggle with feeling “beautiful”? Do you think men don’t find you attractive? Why do you think you feel this way, really?
Leave your comments below.